A lot, a lot, a lot, a lot of your lived experiences on Earth actually have nothing to do with you, but with the narrative that your body presents — at least that’s what I’ve deduced. The narrative can change, sure, but if it does, it’s got nothing to do with what you’ve done to subvert it, and everything to do with other people doing a better job of restraining their inner asshole.
As the genius comedian Chris Rock said of Pres. Barack Obama’s election in 2008: “You could say that black people made progress, but to say black people have made progress would mean that black people deserved to be segregated,” he said. “The reality is that white people have gotten less crazy.”
This brings me to the recent Harvard Business Review article by a Harvard professor that aggregated a bunch of studies which all said that the social and inter-office political implications for women who “lean in,” AKA aggressively negotiate for pay or other things at work, are much more catastrophic than they are for men.
Worth reading, as well as related studies.